New here, new to BDSM

Hello everyone, just wanted to introduce myself.

I am fairly new to BDSM, been practicing for about a year now. It all started when I began dating a girl who liked being spanked, liked it rough, etc, but never actually saw herself as being in to bondage or submission. Likewise, I never imagined that I would like dominating someone.

Well, the rough sex and hair pulling quickly led me to start reading books and buying all sorts of torture devices, rope, chains, etc. It has opened my eyes in many ways, and I love it.

We are very vanilla otherwise, and only take on our roles in the bedroom (or kitchen, or bathroom, or wherever I decide to do bad things to her, lol). We have kept it our secret, and currently have no desire to share with others.

I hope to read and learn here, in order to become a better Dominant to my slave. Any advice for a newb Dom would be appreciated.

Awesome Jefe--welcome! :)

Hi :wave: Welcome to the Community! Enjoy!

wellcome to the site

we are so very happy to have you here, the forums are full of great information, as well as having a very nice personels section and chatroom

feel free to pm any of the staff or myself with conserns or questions, we are more than willing to lend a hand

hope to see more of you soon
have lots of fun exploring the site
hugs and kissess
denu

:welcomeboHi there. Welcome to the forum and to this world too. I sure that you'll like it here and this new world as well. Were a bunch of crazy but very nice people.

:wel jefe

Hi and welcome. I am sure you will find the site both fun and informative

You say you live vanilla because you keep your BDSM life to the bedroom - which I would guess that the vast majority of us do, in terms of actually doing stuff, for purely practical reasons. But you say that you may decide to do bad things to her elsewhere, which shows that your roles don't actually end at the bedroom door. She doesn't have to call you Master in public or wear your collar 24/7: the fact that you both accept your right to use her as you like whenever you choose means that you are living a Master/slave life as much as a couple where the slave never wears clothes around the house or is permanently on hir knees.

Hello and welcome to the forums, Jefe :wave:

Hello and :wel to the Forums

Hi Jefe you'll find lots of info in here drop into the chat room

A very hearty welcomefrom a Texas sub.

:wave:

Welcome and good luck to you and yours.

Thank you all very much for the warm and hearty welcome!

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Originally Posted by leo9

You say you live vanilla because you keep your BDSM life to the bedroom - which I would guess that the vast majority of us do, in terms of actually doing stuff, for purely practical reasons. But you say that you may decide to do bad things to her elsewhere, which shows that your roles don't actually end at the bedroom door. She doesn't have to call you Master in public or wear your collar 24/7: the fact that you both accept your right to use her as you like whenever you choose means that you are living a Master/slave life as much as a couple where the slave never wears clothes around the house or is permanently on hir knees.

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Well, thank you Leo. Yes, I suppose we are living quite the Master/slave life. We have not told any friends or family about this, nor have we sought out any local organizations of like-minded people. We are not lifestylers, that's for sure. But yeah, we enjoy the Master/slave relationship very much. :)

Welcome to the Library. :D