More than one Master?

[Tojo]

I've seen references here & in other places of subs having more than one Master- the same may be true with Mistresses as well.

How does this work? Don't you have conflicts between them?

Just curious.

Me, I wouldn't want to share!

Tojo

[katie_21]

That could be difficult...but I guess the more the merrier! lol

[Ozme52]

Depends on the relationship between the master and the sub. Polyamory v. monogamy or multiple masters/misstresses v. one. I believe they're the same issue.

I don't know if 'more the merrier' is the end result... but for some, definitely the more the happier. And happy is good.

[katie_21]

isn't that the same thing?

[Ozme52]

Yeah, I'm probably splitting semantical hairs. LOL

[katie_21]

Don't confuse me like that Oz...I thought I had used the wrong word!! lol

[Tojo]

'The more the merrier?'

Goodness me Heather- don't go getting ideas!

Tojo

[katie_21]

Well, that's just how the saying goes Mr. Tojo....but I'm guessing that's not for me??? lol

[submissivewife]

ok, I have a Sir and I have a Daddy. Sir I have know for a year now and has been my mentor and friend. Daddy, is more involved and take more control than Sir does....at least currently.

Conflicts? No, I make sure that each knows what the other has me doing so there won't be conflicts. Sir nor Daddy will not try to over-ride the other. In a way they kind of back each other up...even though neither have talked to each other......yet.

[katie_21]

Oh okay, yes subwife, I see how that may work now. I never really thought of it that way, thanks

[Tojo]

Well, that's just how the saying goes Mr. Tojo....but I'm guessing that's not for me??? lol

Oh I think you'll have a hard enough time keeping up with me, missy.


Tojo

[submissivewife]

Oh okay, yes subwife, I see how that may work now. I never really thought of it that way, thanks

Not a problem hun....if you have any questions please, ask...I am more than willing to talk about my Sir and Daddy.

[Brosco]

For my own tastes I am very selfish and couldn't share fantassy with another, but I do know a relationship where it works very effectively and has continued for years.

She is married to her Dom and also has an online Dom. The 2 Doms know each other and communicate so that there is no clash in ongoing tasks.

The only thing I found strange in this relationship was that its the online Dom that is most into the more physically side of D/s, and the r/l Dom that takes the mind/mental approach. I would have sorta expected it to be the other way round.

Brosco

[katie_21]

I think you may be right Tojo

[Tojo]

Well after reading Brosco's post, I realised I do share one of my girls. Her boyfriend takes care of the physical aspect, while I'm in charge of the mental/psychological side. In her words, I dominate her mind, & he works with her body.

I have no contact with him, but he does know about me, & thinks it's 'cool' that she has an online Dom.

It seems to work pretty well, so well I don't really think about it- just do what I can when I see her. It's a pretty part time thing with her.

I guess it depends on the relationship really, every one is different.

The young lady I was just speaking to, I wouldn't want to share with anyone!

Tojo

[katie_21]

hmm...wonder who that is Tojo...lol

[Tojo]

hmm...wonder who that is Tojo...lol

Yes I want you all to myself missy.

Who knows what wondrous journeys we may take together.

As for keeping up with me, you're doing just fine.



Tojo

[katie_21]

Well I want you all to myself....we can't always get what we want :P lol

[Tojo]

We'll just have to do the best we can then, eh?

Life does tend to poke it's ugly head in sometimes, but we still have our little piece of magic.

Tojo

[orchid]

personally for me, i have my fill with my Master/Husband and can't even imagine another making the same rules and demands etc. What i do enjoy, however, is serving my Master in R/L at home and playing online with other ideas, such as Oz has been so kind to entertain me with in the role play. that's enough for me!

[Ozme52]

Your Welcome orchid. For me it's a nice diversion... but I really would enjoy a new real life relationship... understanding that I don't intend to end or change the relationships I also currently enjoy.

Whether that's because I'm polyamourus or just not monogamous by nature, I can't say. Nature or nurture... I saw the same attitudes in my parents... though they tended to flaunt it... That part I don't seem to have inherited.

[ssissyboy]

Hello Masters and Mistresses,
Although I have never had more than one Mistress. It has always been a desire to be used by more than one. I suppose that would require my Mistress to share. Or possibly it is the desire and need for public humiliation that drives this need.
Sissy

[fantassy]

What i do enjoy, however, is serving my Master in R/L at home and playing online with other ideas, such as Oz has been so kind to entertain me with in the role play.

We certainly enjoy reading your role play. You two are hot together!

fantassy

[orchid]

thanks fantassy!
i am really enjoyin myself with it - Oz is an excellent writer and has been very inventive so far, which i am also loving. to me, it's not the same thing as having another Master but it certainly does have some of the makings in that it explores a mental relationship for sure.

ssissy, i can relate to your desire of being used by multiple people. This is something that i find an incredible turn on and if my Master wishes to share me with others, then i will be shared. That doesn't mean that the others will then become a second Master, just that my Master has allowed them use of me for that time. we have talked about this before and have agreed that He will not give me to others unless He is present.

[Warbaby1943]

Just came upon this thread. Since I'm still relatively new here it is taking me time to read some of these threads because I find the recent ones very interesting and time consuming. Although I have nothing to add, I did find this one interesting also.

One thought did occur to me after reading the entire thread and that is with all the members in this forum it appears rare that one has two Masters or two Mistresses. A few spoke up but not many. Submissivewife even offered to discuss her two (Sir & Daddy) but I wouldn't even know where to begin asking her questions. I do think it would be difficult to totally serve two Masters or Mistresses at the same time.

[Scorpio'sWill2Power]

This is all pretty interesting and a lot to think about
from various aspects.

Some of what's already been said deals with what's
right for those involved and in my mind I'd say that's
a key element in pretty much all things.

Although I've never been much solely about the numbers,
if it was a nice blend and satisfied all involved I would
again and have taken that position in the past.

Sometimes you find that you establish a connection on
one level with someone while you do so in a different way
with another.

Tojo mentioned this earlier about being able to meet specific
needs on one level and someone else providing the other.

Overall I think it's practical as well as plausible to have
more than one master or mistress providing it meets their
needs and establishes a nice balance for everyone concerned.

All in all a matter of personal choice so I don't feel there's
either a right or wrong answer for this question. It's all
pretty much in the eye of the beholder on this one.

[submissivewife]

Just came upon this thread. Since I'm still relatively new here it is taking me time to read some of these threads because I find the recent ones very interesting and time consuming. Although I have nothing to add, I did find this one interesting also.

One thought did occur to me after reading the entire thread and that is with all the members in this forum it appears rare that one has two Masters or two Mistresses. A few spoke up but not many. Submissivewife even offered to discuss her two (Sir & Daddy) but I wouldn't even know where to begin asking her questions. I do think it would be difficult to totally serve two Masters or Mistresses at the same time.

Warbaby, feel free to ask...I proud to talk about my Sir and my Daddy! Both are excellent men and provide for my speical needs in different ways, as Scorpio explained here:

Tojo mentioned this earlier about being able to meet specific
needs on one level and someone else providing the other.

Overall I think it's practical as well as plausible to have
more than one master or mistress providing it meets their
needs and establishes a nice balance for everyone concerned.

While most Masters wouldn't dream of allowing their slave to be claim by another, these two men are my temporary Doms. They give me what I need, for now. Sir, helps me satisfy my slave side. Daddy gives my little girl side what she needs. Although, I have recently lost my Sir as my dom, he still gives my slave side a challenge upon occasion. Daddy, is mine (or me his, how ever you look at it), until I go real life with my Master.

My new Master, whom I'm finding, can give both my slave and my little girl sides what they need. Yes, I am a paradox. A friend of mine says I am so much woman I need more than one dom to tame me. While that was quite funny, I do feel there is a Master out there that can and will give me what I need to complete myself and him. This, I hope, is in the new Master of mine.

Please feel free to ask questions. I will be more that happy to respond as openly as I can.

subwife

[Warbaby1943]

submissivewife,

Thanks but as I said I really don't know what to ask. I think you have explained it very well here in this post. If I come up with a definite question, I'll get back to you.

My original confusion centered around the names "Sir" & "Daddy." I was wondering if there was some significance assigned to those names. After reading this post maybe "Daddy" came from your little girl side. Not sure if I picked up on that correctly.

[submissivewife]

Mostly, what happened was that "Daddy" realized, through our conversations before he became my dom, that I had a little girl side and decided I would call him Daddy. I didn't realize it but he did. "Sir", that is his preference to be called Sir.

Most doms have preferences of what they want to be called. As I stated some where in this forum there several titles a dom can use...most just pick what suites them.

My Master loves Sir, Master, and Daddy......which works for me. I haven't called him Daddy yet....but I am sure in time that will happen. Especially when he and I go real life and my "little girl" side needs to be given attention.

[wingsofanangel]

I have my 3 Angels... which is really just 2... as Zat hasn't been around.

They are not really.... my Masters... however I do call them "Sir" and show them a deep resepect.. more so than I would any other Dom on here. My reason for having these Dom's is not because I like collecting them or something like that. I am not yet ready for a serious D/s relationship.However, I know that in order to advance and grow as a sub. I need someone to instruct me, help me learn, push my boundaries, etc... sort of prepare me. They are also there to watch out for "predators".. I often times get PMs or IMs from people claiming to be Doms, but really just want someone to do xxx things for them on a cam.... my Angels are there to protect me and speak up when I do not feel comfortable doing so. They also both do different things for me. Ocean, is physical... he pushes my physical boundaries... while MasterD pushes my mental boundaries.... both work very well together. For me its been really great to have these two men watching over me and helping me along. I've learned a great deal and also have had a lot of fun. So incase... anyone was wondering.. thats... that. lol...

Anya