I want a man who can be my best friend and confidant, who is willing to be my champion should I need him to be, but at a word can take control of my mind. If he can do that, the rest is handed to him.

Does his physical appearance matter. If he meets those criteria, no way. Although going back to something Adam said in his second post, many of those qualities together with his strength of character will be revealed in his eyes, and eyes are something I read in everyone I meet.

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