Rabbit,

This is very interesting post and something all new subs need to think about. Though I consider myself new to the lifestyle, I can honestly say I am very happy to be learning more about it. I know I look forward to the time I spend with Tojo and that I am having as much fun as he is.

Though I do love the feeling that I am pleasing him, I know he is concerned about how I feel too. I can see how someone could easily take advantage of a sub who feels it is all about just pleasing the Dom. I feel so blessed to have meet Tojo, as he has allowed things to progress at just the right pace.

I think your questions are very good and provide a simple check for any sub, no matter what their experiences might be.