What you are saying about 'How can I make him happy for the evening?' reminds me about a book a friend of mine bought me as a birthday present, as a kind of joke, about how to be a good wife. It's from the 50s or 60s and talks about checking your makeup before he gets home and keeping quiet while he talks about his day. Essentially it lays down a blueprint for the perfect submissive wife. I think a lot of women used to behave that way, and probably a fair few of them really enjoyed it.

I think you are right, those are really submissive LIFE/lifestyle traits. I could certainly get satisfaction from those things, and on a profound, submissive level.