The little things...

[Silke]

Oh Warbaby, I couldn't agree more...the little things are what makes any relationship a strong bond in my mind, it's not limited to D/s. And I'm sure you must have tons of the little magic to keep your marriage alive and thriving for 40 years. It's a time span that is almost unbelievable to grasp for me. Congrats!!

[Warbaby1943]

Oh Warbaby, I couldn't agree more...the little things are what makes any relationship a strong bond in my mind, it's not limited to D/s. And I'm sure you must have tons of the little magic to keep your marriage alive and thriving for 40 years. It's a time span that is almost unbelievable to grasp for me. Congrats!!

Silke,

It creeps on you faster than you can even imagine. I really don't know where the last 40 years have gone, but it was fun getting here. Can't seem to slow it down now even though I'd like to.

[KermitsKeeper]

Must be the sweetest reason to break a rule *sighs*...hope you won't get into too much trouble about this, darlin'. Or if you do...well...that he'll make you laugh again afterwards.

Yes, Mina and Silke, I did get in trouble for this. I openly told Master Evan that I had posted without permission. He was disappointed in me, which made me cry. I had hoped he would be pleased enough with what I said to let it slide. He did not, but was quick to forgive and forget.

Later in the day he had me perform for him. We have a game where he says "go" and I drop everything and run to insert a toy, one that has a remote control. Usually his instructions come via IM, but this time he called and just said go. I was surprised, but responded correctly. He quickly brought me to 2 orgasms using a few well written IMs, the vibrations of the toy, and a deep amount of concentration on my part. In the past, it would take me a long time to get there (sometimes I couldn't at all), and now it is almost as soon as he tells me to. He let me come down from those, and then gave me instructions to call him, say nothing, bring myself to orgasm (without his words or the toy) as quickly as I could, and then hang up. He said he wanted to listen to me breathe. When I was done, he told me how proud he was of me and my progress. I was able to come in less than a minute! As a reward for this progress, he gave me 2 days to post freely.

So, happily, I have been forgiven AND have been given another couple of days to be able to talk about how wonderful he is. Since this is the only place where I can talk about him, this is a fantastic gift to me. And things like these fit nicely in this thread! Thank you, my sweet Master! (Uh oh... hope THAT doesn't get me in trouble now!)

[Silke]

*sighs* I had a feeling you'd get into trouble, Kate - sounds strangely familiar...and I get really down when he's disappointed, too. Good to know that both of you made up in such an amazing way afterwards, though. His treats seem to be very special indeed.

Thank you for sharing and I'm glad we'll hear a bit more from you over the next couple of days!!! YAY!!!

[Misato36]

My master and I used to lay in bed together (naked) and talk together. We would list each other's best characteristics. It was nice because at that moment it was not about sex or control. It was about two individuals who understood and cared for each other.

[Tojo]

Oh now that's lovely Misato


Tojo

[nastywolf]

A very nice idea - Silke - congratulations
and - very nice answers - as a newbie i enjoyed reading very much.
so - this little thing (thread) - made me feeling nicely.

[Silke]

My master and I used to lay in bed together (naked) and talk together. We would list each other's best characteristics. It was nice because at that moment it was not about sex or control. It was about two individuals who understood and cared for each other.

You know, this struck me as especially beautiful, Misato, since most of the other experiences you shared were so...harsh. It was a real eye opener to help me understand why you stayed in that relationship. What a wonderful thing...

nastywolf - glad you enjoy the thread! I get the same feeling when I read the posts here. *smiles*

[Silke]

*sighs* I miss him so much...so maybe bringing those little things back to mind helps...

...when he says he's proud of me for things that I had considered normal or not so significant at all
...him calling me by the name he's chosen for me
...when he bursts out that he wants to take me right now, just out of the blue while talking about other stuff...damn, I feel sexy then! *grins*
...when he says 'shut up' after I've been silent for a while *giggles*
...his sensitivity to my moods - he always seems to know that something's on my mind even if I have been trying to keep a low profile
...how we can both make wild plans and enjoy living in those castles we built in the sky, even when we both know most of them will hardly ever happen
...him saying that he's been thinking of me during the day, wondering what I've been up to
...when he's tired but tells me he doesn't want to leave...and the times he actually stayed up all night to be with me. Not a little thing at all, but something that blew my mind at the time. That he MAKES time for me in his tight schedule. *smiles*

I feel better now *nods and smiles*

[wingsofanangel]

being called his precious Sera...

I love my slave name....


Sera (anya)

[frankee]

Silke
i finally sat down and read all the posts in this thread, it's was wonderful reading them all. Gives me that warm and fuzzy feeling inside

i love when my Mistress and i finish a phone conversation, then she calls me back out of the blue
i love when she tells me that i am everything a woman should be *sigh*
i love that She checks up on me when i'm sick or haven't had enough sleep
i even love when She scolds me for not taking my cold meds ...lol
i love when She tells me that She's proud of me, even know i don't think it was all that great.
i love when we're in the middle of conversation and She tells me that She can't wait to get Her hands on me ...ah bliss!
i really love when She tells me that i better brace myself when i see Her next month
i love when i get a call from Her at the most unexpected time (i get very giddy when i see Her number on my caller id)
i love when She calls me and wakes me up because then it makes feel that She's right next to me in bed
i love when i tell Her that i'm going out on the town with my friends, and She tells me to 'be good and behave' *smiling*
and when i am out with my friends She texts me naughty little text messages
i love when i can make Her laugh and then She tells me that i'm so cute

my list could go on and on....but i'll give someone else a chance

[Silke]

Angel...yeah, I know what you mean - it's special. *smiles*

frankee...glad you enjoy the thread, I get the same feeling when going through the posts. And thanks for sharing your 'little things'...I stumbled across one, lol

and when i am out with my friends She texts me naughty little text messages

A dom I knew before my Master used to do that, lol...made me blush big time and it was one of the things I loved about him. Turned out that the rest of him wasn't what I looked for at all - but the frequent reminders and flirts were a highlight.

[frankee]

A dom I knew before my Master used to do that, lol...made me blush big time and it was one of the things I loved about him. Turned out that the rest of him wasn't what I looked for at all - but the frequent reminders and flirts were a highlight.

omg...the texts that i get...whew...make me blush to no end, lol. She knows how to get me everytime, but i love it.
Although, my friends are going to start to wonder about me

[Silke]

omg...the texts that i get...whew...make me blush to no end, lol. She knows how to get me everytime, but i love it.
Although, my friends are going to start to wonder about me

*grins* yeah, I remember that, too. And at some point after tons of those messages, I had to go and use the bathroom...left the cell phone on the table...turned back and saw the curiosity glistening in my friend's eyes...how they exchanged knowing looks...went back...and grabbed the phone! *laughing* Too funny...and the comments I got afterwards *chuckles*

[Evan_]

the way she fights and bucks and finds reasons NOT to do things or finds ways to complain about them... then does them quietly, submissively, and completely. She is learning, and learning that it's ok to not be perfect.

[nastywolf]

Big Smile .....
..... i have to buy a cell phone and to learn how to send sms .....

(Seriously - i never had a cell phone before - there was no reason for using one )

[Curious George]

My favourite "little things":

the look in my partner's eyes which tells me she doesn't want to be anywhere else than with me;

Knowing that I can and do trust her wholeheartedly in every respect.

Oh and more practically over recent weeks, talking about what we'll do to make the wedding night extra, extra special (ten days to go! )

[poetic_justice]

Little things I do to make my partner happy?

* Give him a back massage when he's tense
* Make him brekky on a Saturday morning
* Put my arm around him while we're sleeping, my hand on his chest/stomach
* Tell him in intense and arousing detail exactly what I want to do to him on the weekend when I see him again
* Get him a beer while he's watching the news
* Take back the rental movies for him, so he doesn't get a fine
* Clean and tidy the house while he's at work so he doesn't have to deal with the mess
* Cook dinner for him (or order, if I'm being a lazy girlfriend)

[Scorpio'sWill2Power]

I like calling them when it's least expected.

Sending flowers to their work or home.

Surprising them with a little gift of some piece of jewelry
with uncommon gem stones in necklaces, earrings or
bracelets.

I guess a modernized version of "want some candy little girl?"


Caring for them when they're not up to par.

Washing their hair and bathing them as well.

Preparing a special meal now and again to say
I'm appreciative of all they do for me.

Being a ruthless bastard when the situation call for
that as well.

Snuggling them close and praising them for all the
special little things they do and never forgetting
what they've willingly shared with me!!!

[Silke]

*smiles* washing hair, mmmmm. I remember the scene in 'Out of Africa' where Karin Blixen's lover washes her hair *sighs*, simply delicious! I'll keep that idea for future reference, Scorpio. Such an intimate act and it feels wonderful.

Alright, time to add more...
...finding a message simply saying 'I miss you.'
...that he knows just the right things to say and when to say them.
...his continued fascination with me. (Don't understand it, but love it anyway, lol)
...that he went out of his way tonight to contact me after a long day.

Sweet dreams, everyone!

[Silke]

Just thought about something today that made me want to bump this thread back to the top.

I was chatting with Master and realized how blessed I am with such an attentive soul who cares about me. It suddenly hit me - this is a rare species, lol.

One of my best r/l friends is stuck in a relationship with someone she actually loves to bits, but who isn't really attentive towards her. In his mind, only the big things count. He told me once that he loves to see her happy but hardly ever has the time or money to really show her. For him, it's all about making big presents, dedicating whole days or even a holiday to her, buying a huge bunch of flowers.....when all she wants is maybe a little note saying he loves her pinned to the fridge when she gets up and he's already gone; for him to be really *with* her when they are together, in contrast to him juggling his computer, the tv and a phone call while trying to listen when she tells him how her day went; or maybe pick up a flower from the neighbour's garden instead of a huge buquet.

I actually told him what she said to me - and he wiped it off with a rough gesture and told me those little things weren't worth the effort. As much as I like him, but i think he couldn't be further from the truth. The little things make ALL the difference...

...when I asked him whether he knew how to make an avatar of my picture and he surprised me with not only doing it for me, but adding his name for me.
...when he shares his feelings with my so openly.
...when I was all giggly and hot to do a task today and he created one on the fly.
...when I read the task and realized he knows me so damn well.
...when he said he's proud to announce I call him Master.

The little things I try to do for him -
...getting over my awkward feelings and entertaining him with a story to help him unwind.
...taming my curiosity and respecting his privacy.
...considering his needs and wishes and putting them before my own.
...keeping my in-built smartass in check...sometimes, lol. (although that would probably run under 'saving my own ass'...
...creating an atmosphere where he can relax instead of playing the drama queen, lol

Long live the little things!

[angelfreak]

Well, since I'm now living with my Master, my answer to this thread has changed a little bit.

Things I do to please...

- Try and make sure his water glass is always full when we eat

- Take the initiative in rubbing his feet when he gets home from work (not quite as good as I should be at this one)

- Making sure he always has clean clothes to wear (not really a little thing)

- Making sure the house is fairly tidy when he gets home

- Trying to make sure I light his cigarette before mine

Things he does that please me...

- When he lights my cigarette for me

- Handing me the ashtray when it's out of my reach

- Letting me cuddle with him on the couch when we watch tv

- Letting me sleep in when I wasn't feeling good the night before or we got to sleep really, REALLY late


Um...I'm sure there are a ton more things, but I'm still not fully awake yet. *grins*