Thanks again. I'm definatly trying. As I said before I'm not a dom, I always want control but I'm not the dom type, but I do believe it is in me, so getting down the role is the hard part but I'm working on it. I need to spend more time with her discussing our roles more, because she has years of experiance and she's my best source of education. She's a switch so I'm considering suggesting she take the dom role here and there so I can learn from her actions, though that'll be wierd for me cause I'm definatly not a sub.

To everyone who has responded to this tread, thanks a ton. For a guy who never knew really anything about the scene who has jumped in head first, feedback and information are a godsend. This is a great community and I'm glad I managed to find it. Your all really awsome!