C is for cum restriction

[Timberwolf]

I think regardless of the gender of the sub, CR is a great tool both for establishing and displaying control, whether it's being used as punishment or pleasure. I think it's also one of the maybe "less scary" places for newcomers to start with. It's easy to understand, it doesn't involve any of those strange, kinky toys, but it's still so mentally effective. You don't have to be denied for a long period of time to really get the message either - that first time you're told (or are telling someone) "no. Not yet. You will wait," well that can be a pretty big and fun experience. Even if, at first, it's only for say that one session for a few minutes (I think it makes logical sense not to try not cuming for a week on pane of punishment as your beginning point). It's amazing, the first time you're told you can't touch yourself it suddenly becomes the hardest thing in the world not to do.

"Closely related to CR is 'tie and tease', a very common fantasy involving one person being tied up and rendered helpless as the other teases. "

In terms of actual sex acts, this has to be one of my favourites when I'm in a Dom role. The fantasy of tease them until they are, more or less, around the point of being put into a nuthouse. Then break out the cum overload. It may be a bit cliche within our community, but whatever. It works and it works well. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

Of course, the old switch addage "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" can really bite you in the ass on that one.

[learningtopleez]

The first time I was on cum denial was with Max. If we were going to meet on a certain day, he would put me on CD about a week ahead of that. Talk about not being able to think of anything else! Geez, was I a horny little subbie! Just what he wanted!

Of course after reading your response there TW, it once again makes me think that there really is a Dom handbook out there somewhere! Because after being on CD for a week, and then being tied and teased....have mercy! And the release when he finally told me I could cum? Ahhhhh....heaven! For me, I had some of my most intense orgasms this way.