After discussing this a bit, i think that about the only way to truly test some things is on someone. I know personally that finding someone that has done it before to walk ya threw the first go round if not being your test subject would be the best.

But lets face it, most of us here we are the only ones in the BDSM community that we know. Its not like you can go down to the coffee house and find someone that will let you clap weights to her crotch. Lucky for me i guess, i do know a fare number of people in the life style around here and have been able to go to them and ask for help.

Now if only there were more demos available to go to, watch and learn. i think this would cut down on the "we were trying something new" trips to the ER.