Quote Originally Posted by rce View Post
I firmly believe that being dominant or submissive is something you are born and in part raised to be. Anyone can learn how to dominate, but you have tohave a natural talent for it to be really good at it.

Compare it to the everyday life. Some people are just natural born leaders, others are natural born followers. A natural born leader does not have to be really intelligent or know much about anything, it is just his/her attitude that is a leader's attitude.

Everything you do, you have to learn it. However, there is always an element of talent that you are born with. Virtually anybody can learn how to play a violin, play football, or calculate the orbit of a satellite. There are, however, only a few who are really talented and who become great. Why would sexual dominance be any different?
I find the whole idea of good and great in this area insulting and elitist actually. This is to personal of an idea for any Universal good and great. A Great Dom/me to a pain slut sub wouldn't be one with who is only lightly sadistic (This in no way makes him/her an Untalented Dom/me or untalented sub), vice versa and so on and so forth. Such as any relationship, there is no universal ideal of perfection in a person, what one person sees as the perfect woman/man is another person’s nightmare. (This is a human relationship, the good and great of it lies in the mind of the human, even a talented leader can not lead them all, since BDSM doesn't lie on the worlds stage, it lies in the hearts and minds of the participating parties good and great doesn't apply past the good and great given by the person/s participating)