I find that by treating my sub with repsect, dignity & love rather than force, fear and anger she is MORE than willing to do anything I request of her! To me a D/s relationship is just that, a RELATIONSHIP, subs have feelings & rights & deserve to be treated with respect & love.
Here is something that a friend had sent me (She's a Mistress & a Mentor & to her this is how she saw me as a "Dom")

A man who diplays sensitivity
will be a Master who is sensitive to you.
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A man who displays humility
will be a Master who
will show you respect.
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A man who is not afraid to cry
will be a Master who
understands your tears.
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A man who is quiet
will be a Master who
will hear your quietest whisper.
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A man who will listen to a child
will be a Master who
will always work to understand your words
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A man who can stand alone
will be a Master who
will not crush you under His weight.
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A man who does not have to
prove His point will be a Master with
many worth while points to share.
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A man who never makes demands
will be a Master who
treasures anything you give.
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A man who doesn`t run after you
will be a Master
you will never need to run from.
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A man who is calm
will be a Master who
can weather your storms.
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A man who has walked the path to peace
will be a Master
able to guide you along that path.
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A man who does not shout
will be a Master who
will never deafen you.
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A man with an open mind
will be a Master who
never stops learning.
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A man who never stops learning
will be a Master who
never stops growing.
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And
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A man who always seeks to be
the best He can be
for you
is the only man truly worthy
of being called MASTER

I know this reflected for a "MAN", but I believe it also works for "WOMEN" as well.