When we fully submit to you, how does it make you feel? What does it do for you?

Well, to be honest, it scares the hell out of me. I'm afraid my responses will be quite a bit different from the others you have received, nonetheless, here goes. Yes, it scares me, but it excites me too. I guess I can best describe it as the feeling of being in an airplane about to jump out. Excited but fearful. In that state you are fully aware and that is the difference. Total awareness. Your comment "fully submit" is also the key. Subs submit, that is what they do, but fully submit? That is much rarer than one would think. You can not equate trust with submission and that is a mistake I feel is made far too often. They are componenets of each other but are not interchangeable. Giving up free will is not something most people or subs even can handle. I am awed by the resposibility when it does happen and fearful that I will not be up to the task. I always say that the best way for a Master to be sure he gets what he wants, needs, and desires, s/he must make sure that these same conditions are met in his/her sub. If they are, the sub will do almost anything (some to the point of the ridiculously extreme, like snuff) to make sure the Master is pleased. Therein lies the responsibility. I have to let you extrapolate from here or I would be writing a book.

What about when we are pleasing? When we disappoint you?

Here again the question is incomplete. Do you mean pleasing sexually? Intimately? Respectfully? Intellectually? Emotionally? Do you get the point? Pleasing can not be limited to one aspect......you need to be specific with this question. As most everyone has taken it to mean sexually, I will broach this from a different perspective. Intellectually and Emotionally when a sub uses her brain or her feelings to please me, I am ecstatic. It is she who makes me feel special. I always try to take on a sub who can stimulate me in many ways not just in the dungeon (or for vanillaites, bedroom, LOL). If I wanted a sex toy, there are plenty of ways of getting one without all of the effort that goes into Dominating one. So, yes I love subs who have a mind and a will of their own even when it comes to pleasing me. Just for the record, it is quite thrilling to use a sub......wake up in the morning and push her head to your cock or come home and lift her skirt (no panties for my subs) and take her over the couch. But this is for my pleasure and pleasing includes the sub. Is there any Dom that doesnt thrill at seeing his sub cum? That is pleasing to me too.

Disapointment. I never expect perfection, just progress. I do not discipline with spankings, beatings, long periods of time in bondage or other common tecniques. These are playtime activities and are not to be confused. Plus, a Dom should never, ever, ever strike a sub when angry and dissapointment is another way of saying angry. I prefer to withhold affection. I find it very effective. A sub is constantly looking to verify her worthiness and the value of her submission. When that feedback is withheld it stings more than any crop could ever.

When we top from the bottom?

If you are talking about during play I am confused. It has always been my practice to discuss scenes ahead of time. Maybe not right ahead of time, meaning we discuss several and maybe act out one and a week later act out the other without the immediate knowledge but certainly prior consent.

Again, I seem to Dom differently, I dont want complete submission all the time in all ways. My subs generally know when I am serious and want complete submission, and they know when I want them to participate. It is the communication that is key.

What about if you don't have a current sub/slave?

I guess I dont really understand the inclusion of this question. It seems ambiguous. So I will just say that in that case, I am unfulfilled and looking to become whole again.

What do you get out of it all? What brings you back for more? Allows you to put up with all the trouble we give you?

Well, lily this is the easiest question of them all. It is who I am. Once having exerienced the wonder of the possibilities and the accomplishment of a great relationship, how do you not come back and try again? What wouldn't I put up with (bad choice of words there), to have it again? I agree with someone before me who said "not only do I love women, I like them." To that I say hear hear!!

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