you might not like ass-play for now but she does?? It is a training thing to get used to it and really enjoy it. YOu should start with an enama to clean yourself out and reduce the pain. then yes start small and work your way up. A friend told me you never what you can take, now up to a 21/2 in dildo with plenty of astroglide and loving it. You might also explore nipple play with clothspins and clover clamps and of couse there's the ever popular cock and ball torture lol. Hard to get into bondage, whips, flogger and alike over the net but do continue exploring and have fun take care