Question about Psychology of BDSM (with apologies)

[Timberwolf]

"I just can't see how a person that dedicates his or her life to beeing a slave to another person (and merely due to his or her sexual urges) could have a fulfilled and loving life. How could this person ever develop respect for his/herself if his/her very partner delights in not showing any. For this and other reaosns I would call a intensive sadomasochistic lifestyle unhealthy."

If you truly consider this highlighted section to be factual information, you need to quite seriously re-evaluate your knowledge of what we do.

Respect is everything. It is the very core of what this is.

[TomOfSweden]

"I just can't see how a person that dedicates his or her life to beeing a slave to another person (and merely due to his or her sexual urges) could have a fulfilled and loving life. How could this person ever develop respect for his/herself if his/her very partner delights in not showing any. For this and other reaosns I would call a intensive sadomasochistic lifestyle unhealthy."

If you truly consider this highlighted section to be factual information, you need to quite seriously re-evaluate your knowledge of what we do.

Respect is everything. It is the very core of what this is.

I also reacted very strongly to that. I make a point of being extremly loving to my slaves. I feel it becomes so much more important in this lifestyle than in vanilla. I take care of my slave, on every level. On every level. I think that's the most important core of a D/s relationship. And my slave in turn takes care of me, in her way. Just as you describe the dominant man you are seeing.