i think myri agrees with you allalone, i think that was the point in her bringing it up.

Sounds to me like that guy is making up a load of crap anyway, i very much doubt he practices any of the drivel he yaps on about...i certainly hope so anyway.

In terms of the subject, i agree with TG, blanket terms, although, not ideal, are necessary in Ds relationships, because to seperate everyone out, in accordance with a million definitions and preferences, would be ridiculously complicated and would lead to Ds quietism!

sl