A little more background on my own situation. I have had a few online relationships, much of which has been played out right here on the forums. As great as they were, and as much as I learned, I hungered for "more." For several reasons my online relationship couldn't offer me that, not the least of which was geography, and we parted as very good friends.

I met someone new, on another site. He lives in my province, and we always had the intent of meeting as soon as we both felt comfortable. We spent a LOT of time on the phone getting to know one another. At that point we didn't have a Dom/sub dynamic (i.e. he wasn't tasking me or anything) and we just focused on learning and sharing with each other. After a couple of weeks I felt comfortable enough to travel to his city to meet him. Yes, we met in public. And yes, I used a safe call.

So now we are laying the foundations of a relationship. We both seek D/s that extends beyond the "kinky good time" in the bedroom. Actually acheiving this is what is harder and more intense than what I ever expected.

I think what I continue to struggle with the most is my own insecurities. Am I good enough? Submissive enough? Am I going to be just too much work entirely?

I am not so much looking for advice, I just thought this was an interesting topic of conversation. The best advice is always "talk to Him about it" which I have, and continue to do. He knows all of this (and more) and offers reassurance when I need it.