Moving Into Reality

[His_blizzard]

Before I go any further with my own experience in online to RL, let me just type one very important word. INVESTIGATE!
Yes, you have met your Dom online and yes you claim to trust and honor him completely, as I did with with my Master Dragon. But if a Dominant were to consider it insulting or dishonorable for you to do all that you can to make sure he is who he says he is and insure your safety, than he is not a Dominant interested in the well being of his submissive. In fact, if he has nothing to hide, than he should welcome any kind of an invstigation that his submissive may have the means to conduct. By this I do NOT mean tha anyone at anytime should have to give out their full date of birth or social security number. Identity theft is rampant and the thieves will go to any lengths to get what they can. My Master did tell me his full name and adddress and phone number. I was able to go to Anywho.com and Classmates.com to verifiy that he did live where he said he did and also to verify his graduations, his degrees and time in the service. I was lucky enough to have a friend that was able to conduct a minor investigation that proved he was married to who he said he had been married to, and divorced with no children as he had claimed. I also verified his cars and place of employment. Everything checked out. He, on the other hand, had a friend in the military run me, and I think he knew what color panties I was wearing that day. LOL! Even all of this is no guarantee that he will be the Dominant of your dreams, but it is important to do whatever you can to make sure this meeting is SAFE, sane and consensual.
Any relationship can go flooey. The man you meet in the church choir can turn out to be a serial killer. But since so many of us travel to make our online D/s a RL one, we have to be extra careful. Also check online for the department of corrections in the state where he lives. (I am saying "he" here in the interest of time, but all men need to be wary as well.) I actually met a great guy on a vanilla dating site and we were going to meet for lunch. I put his name up in NJ Dept. Of Corrections and found he had done 3 years in state prison for 1st degree aggravated sexual assault. Needless to say the lunch date never happened. Maybe he had paid his dept to society, but I was not taking any chances.
I actually had a semi-BDSM relationship in RL before meeting my Master online. It was more a Top/bottom deal but it released the sub within me and gave me courage to take the next step.
As like delia, my online to real life meeting with my Master went beautifully. I am not not only proudly wearing his collar, but we got vanilla engaged in April and will be together 24/7 as soon as we can. If you are interested in that story you can click on this link.
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...2307#post82307
Hope this helps some. "Peace" ~blizz~