I wouldn't stress over it Blonde

I've been following these threads and contributing for a year and a half now. The people here are great, but I do see many get caught up in definitions of words like SUB, DOM, BDSM lifestyle, SLAVE etc...

I've never been able to take it that seriously. I see myself as sexually Dominant and lucky for me, my partner is sexually submissive. We like to play, on occassion, with ropes, chains, cuffs, whips and such. Its fun and a big turn on for both of us. I say...go with whatever works for you. Life is too short to repress your desires...you should have fun while you can. At the same time there isn't any written rule I'm aware of that says you have to do something you don't want to do because you percieve yourself as a "submissive". Just throw away the bdsm dictionary and have fun.