Not much I can add to what has already been said other than to reiterate that being a good Dominate is work. It means that you are in charge, that you remain cognizant that you are expected to be in charge, and, probably in your case, you will be tested to see if you are aware that you are in charge and how you react.

I would suggest that you look around the forums, that you read, you ask more questions, you participate. There is a wealth of knowledge, experience and information here if you will take the time to ferret it out and then pay attention.

TDS