I think you were referring to the post in which you talked about your confusion about the roles outside of the bedroom and where you had an outburst about a mess with your husband.
That is exactly the one to which I referred.

It's not the fairy tale in which you discover a new intimacy and a hotter sex life and so everything else is now going to be perfect. Dominance and submission, sex, children, finances, goals, interests, failures, lessons learned, victories achieved, communication, understanding, give and take and so on and so on forever as long as you are both together.
This part of what you said should be written into all marriage ceremomies or committment ceremonies or ritual ceremonies...take your pick...because it is dead-on correct! Life just moves right along, taking and changing the relationship right along with it.

You both have an opportunity to become closer than you have ever been, to trust each other with things that most people can't even talk about. And you will find its not just about exploring your submission and his dominance. It will spill over into other things and you will both become stronger for it. I once heard that women crave and need to feel adored and men need to feel respected in a relationship. I think you will find that you will both start to more keenly feel those things even if you didn't before.
Widget, this is what I was hoping to hear from those that know what I don't. My husband is the first man I ever trusted enough to expose myself with. Our relationship has developed into one of complete trust and devotion (not to sound overly mushy, but it's true for us). I think it would be crazy difficult to enter in a D/s relationship without that kind of trust. To be able to believe it will spill over into other areas is so wonderful to know!

You are not failing at being submissive because you had an argument with your husband. He is not failing at being dominant if he didn't turn you over his knee after.
Thank you again. I needed to hear this as well.

But I wonder what would have happened with your guilt over it if he had (after you both were calm, next day maybe) sat down with you and then punished you then.
I have thought about this more than I care to admit. The idea both comforts me and frightens the wee out of me! Again, a case of wanting for something desperately and not knowing the consequences of the reality. Is this a case of a double-edged sword, perhaps? One day, I at least hope I can answer the question for myself.

You both are redefining your roles a bit and its not an easy thing. Do you want to be submissive all the time, part of the time, what does he want. I think you are both talking about these things and that is key.
This is, very well summed up, the discussion we had the day after. And you said it so perfectly again, it is not easy. But it is so very worth it!

if I didn't answer you the way you were looking for I guess that is because there is no right answer, only observations from experience
This is completely what I was hoping for!! You sharing from your experience is priceless to me. My deepest thanks!

ps. from "the girls" ~grins~