a few of my comments:

the original point was simply if you make a commitment to someone, keep your commitments. you could simplify it down to someone that overschedules there time yes. But the common thing I see (the last 2 girls I've taken in) had the same issue husband, work, kids. Those three things HAVE to be taken into consideration when you make your commitment.

I normally don't like taking on a girls that are married. I have made 2 exceptions and been burned twice. well fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me.

After all the posts I saw in personals of vanilla married people combinded with just happened it was just an emotional rant because I was angery. My rant was targeted yes to vanilla married subs with kids. But my point was simple. Make a commitment keep it.

24/7 with kids is difficult trust me, we only have to worry about it 3 months out of the year but its a challange. That and the pre-summer clean up is always depressing.

I've seen vanilla or even single Tops do the same thing, they have so much time with friends or social life or they have built up such a stable they don't have time they have spread themselves to thin.