Respect for your sub/slave

[His_blizzard]

I have a question that's been going around in my head for quite awhile now. He likes to call me his pet, and I like being his pet, but there's this little voice inside my head that says it's demeaning to my character. I would like to make it shut up I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that it is possible to submit completely to someone and still retain your sense of self-worth and self-respect.

Hmmm...think of it this was. Has a man ever called you (or have you ever called a guy) "baby". or "pumpkin" or any of those gushy, silly names that we all use at times? One doesn't have a lot of respect for a baby or a pumpkin but I bet that if you were ever called that you never though of it that way, right?
I love it more than almost anything when Master called me pet, or little one or even His slut. To me these are terms of endearment and I treasure them.
What tells me that I am respected is the way I am treated and he treats me like the an intelligent equal who has offered my gift of submission; not like a possession that he has casually acquired. If this is the way you are treated, then I say "SHUT UP" little voice inside fireandice's head. *grins*
I hope this helps. "peace" ~blizz~

[MissElizabeth87]

Hmmm...think of it this was. Has a man ever called you (or have you ever called a guy) "baby". or "pumpkin" or any of those gushy, silly names that we all use at times? One doesn't have a lot of respect for a baby or a pumpkin but I bet that if you were ever called that you never though of it that way, right?
I love it more than almost anything when Master called me pet, or little one or even His slut. To me these are terms of endearment and I treasure them.
What tells me that I am respected is the way I am treated and he treats me like the an intelligent equal who has offered my gift of submission; not like a possession that he has casually acquired. If this is the way you are treated, then I say "SHUT UP" little voice inside fireandice's head. *grins*
I hope this helps. "peace" ~blizz~

I really wholeheartedly agree. When I call Wellbehaved my "boy" or my "pet" or any of the other various nicknames he has between the two of us, it's a term of endearment more than anything else. I completely respect him, and our life together. I know that many of our vanilla friends who know some about our lifestyle tend to think that I don't respect him, but... it's just something they cannot understand.

I fully believe Wellbehaved's worth as a person is equal to my worth as a person. Living this lifestyle does not make him worth less to me, just because he submits to me... really, it makes him worth much much more to me. I respect him more than almost any other person I know (barring my parents and grandparents.)