Quote Originally Posted by UncleFester
After years of goofing with this, it seems that what she wants is to be pushed around sexually but she doesn't want to talk about it, and doesn't want to be responsible for coming up with any new ideas.
The more you can find out, the better for both of you. The suggestions so far of a journal and comments on stories are good, but you might also try setting up interrogation scenes. Question her about her feelings, fantasies and past experience while she's in submissive mode, with punishment for hesitation or evasion. That way she may be able to admit to things she can't normally say. Even if you don't learn anything new, you'll probably have fun