We scened tonight and....

[ValKyrie]

Maybe your sub was wrestling with submission too... I often will sheild myself if I can--not because I want to, but as a natural reaction. Last night I broke two chains that I thought normally were strong enough to hold me, I was struggling so hard. Of course I was punished more for it (gee, darn).

We have talked about your post and yes, he was struggling. To be blunt, he doesn't like spankings, bottom whippings, and hates the riding crop on his butt. I was testing him and he was feeling it. As my sub, he took the attention to his bottom because I enjoy it. T'is true! This was done with intermittent attention to his back, floggers, whips and scratching...which he particularly enjoyed.

As for your breaking chains? I believe that was his head space. When I was subbing, I wasn't one to struggle. Rather, I was very docile in how I coped with and enjoyed what was happening.

So, it seems that those who are not part of the Ovarian Society do tend to react differently, more aggressively than their counterparts. Where a woman may cry, a man may growl, become aggressive?

His POV was that our play was wonderful, took him farther than he thought he could go and that he truly submitted. In fact, I am the only one in this partnership who is still thinking about those few moments.

I did tell him that I learned that he will be fully restrained next time ! *smirks* This met with mild protests and a bit of a twitch between his legs!

[csr]

We have talked about your post and yes, he was struggling. To be blunt, he doesn't like spankings, bottom whippings, and hates the riding crop on his butt.

I'm the opposite--love it on the ass, not on my back. She routinely takes me there though. From my point of view, when she goes in the places I don't like, yes, I struggle, and I don't like it, and I would stop her if I had a hand free. But...and this is a big but...afterward, I wouldn't change a thing! Push me to my limits, scare me, hurt me... but I'll only love her more later.

As for your breaking chains? I believe that was his head space. When I was subbing, I wasn't one to struggle. Rather, I was very docile in how I coped with and enjoyed what was happening.

I find I go both ways. Some struggle, some quiet submission. But I think you may be right about the m/f difference.

BTW: "Ovarian Society"... LOL. Never heard that one before--it's great.

His POV was that our play was wonderful, took him farther than he thought he could go and that he truly submitted.

I figured as much! Just like I was saying above.

I did tell him that I learned that he will be fully restrained next time ! *smirks* This met with mild protests and a bit of a twitch between his legs!

I think he and I have a fair bit in common. This sounds like me, lol.

[AndrewBlack]

Val - Did you perhaps feel more disappointed because you were stopped from doing something that you were enjoying a lot but assumed your sub would take easily? Or perhaps disappointed because you felt you couldn't gauge your sub well enough?

[ValKyrie]

Thank you, csr. It certainly helps me to make sense of things, never having been a male subbie ...

Andrew: The latter. I was disappointed because I didn't gauge him well enough. But, hopefully, this will be avoided in the future if we both remember our communication. We hadn't scened in a while, and that might have lead to some fuzziness in thought and action.

Thank you

[AndrewBlack]

Don't feel dissapointed, you can't read minds. I know exactly what you mean though, it does kind of snap you out of the moment a bit, but you sound like you got right back in there :smackbum: