We scened tonight and....

[csr]

We have talked about your post and yes, he was struggling. To be blunt, he doesn't like spankings, bottom whippings, and hates the riding crop on his butt.

I'm the opposite--love it on the ass, not on my back. She routinely takes me there though. From my point of view, when she goes in the places I don't like, yes, I struggle, and I don't like it, and I would stop her if I had a hand free. But...and this is a big but...afterward, I wouldn't change a thing! Push me to my limits, scare me, hurt me... but I'll only love her more later.

As for your breaking chains? I believe that was his head space. When I was subbing, I wasn't one to struggle. Rather, I was very docile in how I coped with and enjoyed what was happening.

I find I go both ways. Some struggle, some quiet submission. But I think you may be right about the m/f difference.

BTW: "Ovarian Society"... LOL. Never heard that one before--it's great.

His POV was that our play was wonderful, took him farther than he thought he could go and that he truly submitted.

I figured as much! Just like I was saying above.

I did tell him that I learned that he will be fully restrained next time ! *smirks* This met with mild protests and a bit of a twitch between his legs!

I think he and I have a fair bit in common. This sounds like me, lol.

[AndrewBlack]

Val - Did you perhaps feel more disappointed because you were stopped from doing something that you were enjoying a lot but assumed your sub would take easily? Or perhaps disappointed because you felt you couldn't gauge your sub well enough?

[ValKyrie]

Thank you, csr. It certainly helps me to make sense of things, never having been a male subbie ...

Andrew: The latter. I was disappointed because I didn't gauge him well enough. But, hopefully, this will be avoided in the future if we both remember our communication. We hadn't scened in a while, and that might have lead to some fuzziness in thought and action.

Thank you

[AndrewBlack]

Don't feel dissapointed, you can't read minds. I know exactly what you mean though, it does kind of snap you out of the moment a bit, but you sound like you got right back in there :smackbum: