Quote Originally Posted by Kelli
This isn't really bdsm related, but I guess it could be. Since May of last year, when I was sick for 2 weeks, my sexual appetite has EXTREMELY dropped. I am hardly ever horny anymore, and not as hungry for sex or bdsm as I used to be. Before I got sick, I wanted sex, sexual activities, bdsm several times a day. It's really affecting my fiance and my's life. Sex was a huge part before, and now, I feelt like I'm letting him down. We don't really mess around (mostly cuz I can't get into it), and I know it's frustrating him (me too). Anyone have any ideas or suggestions? I would really appreciate it.
Forget about sex for awhile. If you don't want sex, the more you think that not wanting sex is a problem the more it will become a problem. It seems you are saying its a problem because you feel guilty about satisfying your fiance, not that you are missing it. It seems you need to take a mental holiday from yourself and do something else you are passionate about. Its pointless having sex with your fiance if you are just fulfilling his needs and not your own. My guess that way you will start to resent him. He's going to have to understand how you feel and take the pressure off you to perform.