Problems with Love

[Kelli]

If you were a guy, I'd suggest a complete physical, because a SUDDEN change in libido that can't be traced to stress usually has a physical cause, but I don't think that's as applicable to women. Of course, you don't say what your illness was. If some virus is lingering in your system, that may still be a factor (or something like Guillain-Barre or Chronic Fatigue Syndrome).

On the other hand, women are at least as susceptible to stress as men. It may be time to check in with your local mental health service and see if that's a factor here. The good thing about community mental health is that their prices are adjusted based upon your ability to pay.

Mental health? Ummm I don't think I've lost my mind...

My suggestion is kind of bland and simple but just cuddle. Nothing sexual just cuddle and enjoy the closeness.

Go rent a movie and watch it together. Curl up and read a book together or something but keep away from sex.

I can speak for myself I can say that there are bouts when I am so horny that I can't stand it. And then after that passes there are times when I just want to be close and feel loved.

I agree with this, and am going to try it tonite. We both love movies, so any in mind that may help? Unfaithful is a favorite of ours, that usually arouses me.

Talk. If there are things you're keepoing from each other, root those things out and trust each other.

We did a little last night, and I'm sure that will continue. I haven't kept anything from him, and I really don't think he has kept things from me, but I'll ask him.

Thanks for the input, I'll give these things a try. As for me being sick, I just had a bad cold/cough for 2 weeks, fever some days, the usual.