Quote Originally Posted by miloura dae
I just recently unveiled my submissive fantasies/desires to my lover,and
partner of almost 6 years. I was kind of scared to do so because I didn't
know what his reaction would be. Yes, basically i'm already submissive to him
because I fear him, for he has a temper. Also, he claims to run things around
the household including me and our daughter. I debate it often, of course I don't win. We talked about my fantasies which included bondange, biting,spanking,kink, and some humiliation. But, I made it clear that it was
for sex play only. He agreed and was readily excited about the whole thing.
Our first experimental night went rather well and left me very much fullfilled.
And i've pleasured him numerous times, as i'm supposed to and he's asked that I address him as master..But, he's taking his dominant postion a little too far. We agreed to me submitting myself as his sex slave during sex time only. Now he's making me stand in corners, and belittling me, yelling at me, getting in my face, all in front of my 3 year old daughter. I find it quite abusive and coming from my desire to submit to him. I don't know what to do about it. If any of you have some well needed advice. I would greatly appreciate it. Also, i've done plenty of reading and research on this site, I just know our dom/sub relationship is NOT supposed to be like this..

~Danielle

There should be no place for bad temper in a bdsm relationship. If he is belitting you in front of your child then that is an abusive relationship. Play time or not You have limits. If you have not done so then you need to comunicate those limits to him. If he will not respect your limits then you should have nothing more to do with him until he does.
You have made it clear that you want the bdsm to remain in the bedroom and no were else. If he is not respecting that then you need to cut him off. Before it escalates further. It can and will turn ugly very fast. With him abusing you and you calling the police and have him hualed away in cuffs. The laws are very clear.

I would say in a very unqualified way. That if both of you do not have a 2 way comunication and coaporation in your relationship then you probly should not explore bdsm.

He will continue to push and push you until become nothing more than a door mat. And then he will eventualy lose interest with you and that will be it.

It has always been my opine that the submisive in a relationship is the one with the power. It is yours to give to him or yours to take away.

First there is respect then there is submision.

I hope it works out.

Mobous