***Also not trying to duplicate, but want to agree and give you more things to think about. ***

Danielle, that you fear him, your partner and lover, is very very wrong. This is not about being submissive, this is about abuse.

He appears to be using many common tactics to perpetuate the domestic violence. Yes, violence, harsh, but true.
http://www.whbw.org/important_inform...c_violence.htm
(Good site with info - there must be similar site for your location.)

You have to ask yourself some tough questions and be very realistic about the answers.

1. Do you want him as he is, right now, if he never changes?
2. Is this the type of behavior that you want your daughter to experience?
3. Are you with him because you are afraid of leaving him?
4. What are you getting out of this relationship that makes you stay?
5. If there was one seat on the life raft, would he give it to you and your daughter or throw you overboard?

If you want to leave him, plan ahead, seek help and don't be ashamed or embarrassed if you need to go into hiding. If you're in the USA, you can file a restraining order for verbal abuse alone.

When I had to smuggle my girlfriend and her two children out of her house, we spent over a month finding an apartment. (We just told the landlords that her home was undergoing a remodel and she would need at least a six month lease. That satisfied them and we avoided the whole domestic violence issue. The remodel was in building a safe environment for her and children so we didn't think of it as a lie.)
We also had to set up new banking accounts and a few other things
that you can get help with.

If not for you, then protect your daughter. Picture yourself as the tigress protecting her cub and hold that image in your heart. You are the tigress.
You deserve respect and if he can't give it to you, then sadly it's time to go.