Quote Originally Posted by Adamoverjules
"Control and caring are not opposing terms; but the form of control is transformed by the presence of caring."

Don't you think the rest of the world would be more like 'us' if they took that statement to heart?
It all depends what you mean by control and what you mean by caring and who decides. There is so much controling in society that is sold as, for my/our benefit, when it is really for someone elses benefit.

For whose benefit is education, for you or the state? The modern state needs an educated population to generate wealth, mainly for the elite few. 3% of the USA's population control something like 90% of the wealth. However with an education you can look down on the less fortunate and feel you are doing well.

Transfer those ideas to a D/s relationship and you could chew the fat all night. If the dominant party choose how to control and how to care then there really isn't any care at all, it's domination.

When you study, unless it's the hard sciences where you can provide proof your mentor might be wrong, you have little choice, you have to accept the wisdom and the knowledge of your mentors even if they spout a load of baloney. You want your degree, you perform and do what is necessary to get it. Then you can blow a raspberry back.

You have left me unconvinced we are better as a group than any other group in society. We enter a consesus for mutual benefit. That to me is what we all do in society, with some getting more benefits than others.