Question for the "Switches" on the board

[redEva]

Much like Kelli and somewriter I have to say that what role I take depends much, if not entirely on the partner.

I am always Dominant around other women, I am aggressive in my approach and body language around men, enough that most of them either submit or feel challenged, attacked – which does not translate into Dominant behavior but more into closing off/being on guard. I rarely encounter man that has the Dominant “aura” around him, someone whom I do not intimidate and in return, towards whom I assume submissive position.

I am aware that not everyone will agree with me, in the context of the social interaction I am referring to, but I establish my relationships from the first moment. I am one of those people that depend on “gut” feeling when assessing new acquaintances, and have rarely been wrong.

If I had to choose one end though, I would choose Dominant in me, simply because I am much harder to get disappointed if I am in charge.
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On the other point made here (spitman / vistana) it is interesting one.
Vistana, toping-from-bottom is annoying – I agree with you, totally. But, just to throw in my two cents – when talking about defining switches – no one (I ever heard of) would define him/herself as switching between being slave/Master. And as long as one does not give up all the control, one is in control. No matter how submissive the bottom is, as long as that person has safe word/phrase or right to voice his/her opinion, bottom has control – the ultimate control over his/her destiny.

From what I read into spitmans response I believe that is where he was going. Anyone of us, who ever switched, can attest to spitmans very eloquent division between two experiences. It is not to say that subbing is totally physical experience, because it is not – it is very much of a psychological experience; just the fact that we have already discussed sub-space in other threads confirms it, but the Toping is more than anything psychologically satisfying.

I would very much agree with spitman that switches just might be Dominant masochists – and playing both ends is the only thing that can satisfy all the desires and needs.