Quote Originally Posted by thebiggame View Post
Am I being too selfish and demanding. Should I just enjoy the fact we do have a good sex life as is.
Why do we tell ourselves that wanting what we want is selfish?? I'm asking as I do the very same thing! We shouldn't though. We just shouldn't.

I just want more excitement between us and have tried a couple times to explain this but she usually gets offended and calls me a weirdo.
We usually attack what we don't understand. That's human nature...sad but very true. ~sighs~ How about you show her one of those femdom videos? Make sure it's a good time to do so (no distractions, both of you feeling happy and sexy with each other) and just let her see what it is you want. You've tried explaining. Now try showing her. Tell her how sexy it would be for you if she were to do that to you. Be ready for her to express her opinion. She has that right. But try to help her understand your needs and how she fits into all that (double entendre intended ).

Also, mention this to her. You didn't have to say anything to her. You could have turned elsewhere to have your needs met. But you chose her because she is what you want. Make it about her. Women can appreciate that. I'm not talking about manipulation or false praise. I'm talking about that fact that you trust her enough to seek this out with her. If she understands how important this is for you and that you want to experience this with her, maybe she won't see it as you being a "weirdo", but as you coming to her for a deeper, more satisfying relationship. Who waouldn't want that??

But baby steps, yeah. Sir Russell has it stone cold with that point.

Best of luck to you!

tessa