Thanks to my truly wonderful sub and partner, who is beneath me, but still my equal; I've never had to wonder "If only..." I got into this lifestyle early and have never regretted it. I believe we are born into our sexuality, for BDSM i think the first time you begin to accept the concept, you feel complete.

When I was about 8 or 9, i used to tie up my toys. I knew all the different knots and how to undo them by the time i was 12, although i had no idea how useful that would become throughout my sex life. At 16 I bought my first whip and it sat in my bedroom until one day my boyfriend asked me why i had bought it... After a few months, he was asking me to use it on him. Things just sort of progressed form that point.

Speaking from experience, accepting how we are is a really tough thing to do, but pinpointing the exact place where it all started; that's a different matter. I truly believe i was born this way... And quietly, i'm glad I was...