kinky.kristy
You have asked the oldest hardest question. We all go through it in our search. The good news is that today with the net it is easier then it was when I started out. 35 years ago I had to study the women I thought might be submissive very carefully and closely, since it was very few people in the life that could let others know. Even when I selected one I had to proceed slowly and carefully with them, teach them while building trust and confidence.

Today there are places like this site and other places where you know to begin with that the other person has an interest in the Life. So place ads, visit chatrooms, when you find a Dom that you are interested in then use private chat rooms, IM and emails to get to know him.

Ask him questions listen very carefully to his answers not just what he says but the subtle things that tell you a lot about that person. Pay close attention to questions he ask but not just so you can answer honestly<very important> and completely but what the actual question says about him. Go slowly.

Any shortcut you may take puts both your physical being at risk but also your emotional self.

Good luck and enjoy the search