Quote Originally Posted by Jeneric
Hello everyone I'm fairly new to the forums on this end but am quite active in the Academy. I've posted these questions over on that side and I figured it wouldn't hurt to get some opinions over here as well. Seems to be a lot more of you guys on this end.

Anyway, here goes:

Is it common for tops/doms/etc to have once been bottoms/subs/etc? And do you think that makes for a better top/dom to have experienced the other side first?

Are there any "classes" to learn to be a dom/top or is it mainly by apprenticeship?


Thanks!! Looking forward to some feedback.

~ Jen

Jen:

i personally have always said it makes or a better Top/Dom/etc to have been a bottom/sub/etc first. They get a full range of knowledge and know how the bottom/sub/etc feels and can put Themselves in the place of the sub/bottom/etc when during a scene.

As for places to learn: there are places that will teach you, even professional Dom/mes that will take you in for a price. However, i do not see anything wrong with apprentiship, if both parties are truly dedicated to the education of said Dom/Top/etc then it is just as good as professional training.

But, there are some who believe it is better the other way around because you have the perstiage of saying: "I was trained by so-so or at such and such school of training". i have never been one for "pointing fingers" so to speak.

my training as a boy/bottom/sub came from a very young age, then by a very knowledgable Mistress. Then I went though a really rough spot in my life and I decided I was never going to let go of control again and trained to be a Dom.

However, i did come to the conclusion that i truly was a switch within these's Daddy cloths and found another Switch to partner with. Then came the day my partner decided She was more Mistress/Top then She was bottom and She flipped me *smile*. i am now collared and tagged forever to serve my beloved Mistress.

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