Quote Originally Posted by Jeneric
Is it common for tops/doms/etc to have once been bottoms/subs/etc? And do you think that makes for a better top/dom to have experienced the other side first?

Are there any "classes" to learn to be a dom/top or is it mainly by apprenticeship?
Hi Jen,

I was going to post a response to this when you posted it over at the Academy, but the Nazis that run that place still haven't seen fit to lift their censorship over me.

Now, you might want to sit down for this, because what I say next might come as a shock to you: I started out as a submissive myself. At first, it was what seemed to fit for me, but as I grew I realized that I enjoyed that aspect of thigns less and less. So, about six years or so ago, I decided to try the other side of the fence. And let me tell you, it fit me like a glove.

Of course, nowadays, I don't really get to do much of anything. The whole having a two-year old thing really cuts into the time I can spend actually doing anything BDSM related.

As for classes: No. Not really. Most of what I learned was from books and a lot of trial and error. However, a little common sense goes a long way in this business. There are mentors and trainers available for domiannts, but unless you know where and how to find them, they might prove daunting to find. Most communities are fairly well guarded about whome they mentor.