Quote Originally Posted by His_little one View Post
...The distance surely doesn’t help as I know things would be different if we saw each other more frequently not to mention the days between seeing each other can be tedious in trying to find time to have a normal conversation. So on one hand I’m supposed to be embracing the sub/slave in me and sharing it with him then I’m supposed to pack away that role and be the supportive, patient, understanding, independent, vanilla girlfriend that is totally ok with going 3-4 days without talking to him-- talk about difficult....
His_little one, I don't know exactly what your respective work and life schedules are, but one thing that stuck out to me here was not so much the amount of time between when you see each other (which is understandable, given the geographic distance), but the amount of time that passes with you not talking to one another.

I think it makes sense to go a number of days without talking if it's for something like a "boys' weekend," but going that long consistently could be a real obstacle to your developing relationship.

During the long-distance phase of our relationship, Sir and I talked on the phone daily, even if it was just several short conversations in between "this and that." I realize you two are brand new together and that may be a bit much, but it sounds like the lack of communication for 3-4 days is driving you crazy. It would drive me crazy, too.

It seemed like my Master and I both had a need to keep in close contact with each other, even when our relationship was very new. I ended up getting a discounted international calling plan so it wouldn't be too expensive for us to talk regularly (since I was in the U.S. and he was in Canada.)

Anyway, as I said, I don't know the reasons why you two don't communicate more frequently, but I'm guessing it's not the distance. I'm sure if he lived closer, you would most likely see each other more often, but since he doesn't, I guess the best advice I could give would be to make it a priority to talk more often, if you can.

Quote Originally Posted by Polaris View Post
Firstly, I don't think that you come off as "needy" when you want to have some more contact with a person you're in love with...no communication over 3-4 days sounds awful to me. I'd be so very insecure on day 2 that I'd be running in circles. I really understand how hard this is, and I presume that it is even harder in a D/s context when you are still in the "settling in in the respective roles" process....
I just quoted this paragraph because it underscored what I was thinking.