Thank you so much to everyone who replied to this. I apologize for not responding sooner, but we were away for the weekend and have been busy this week.

Pandora - thank you, I am going to research that and give Him some material on that. I've found a few sites for subs only with comments on how submission makes them feel. I think I'll direct Him to some if those as well. This was especially helpful advice as it was something that I never thought of.

Ranie - I appreciate your thoughts on this, perhaps I haven't been as sensitive to the changes this creates in His life and need to focus on His feelings as well. Difficult but necessary, if He would only tell me when He feels pressured so that I may ease it

csr - you're probably right that He doesn't realize that He's doing it, I know that He would never intentionally hurt me, so often in our lives we don't realize how our actions can affect others.

phragmites - That's exactly what I mean, I don't mind Him laughing, I want Him to have a great time, but I don't want to be laughed AT. I don't see it as humiliation (which I like), it's degradation which I don't like and He knows this. I mean, who wants to feel like they are just a joke? I want Him, if this makes sense, to be proud of me for completing tasks that may be things I don't like (although within my stated limits) instead of shocked and amused.

Ruby - As it usually does when I read your posts, your advice has once again, hit home for me. He isn't being very responsible and caring. I don't understand why this would have become a habit, He says He doesn't get anything out of it, but you're probably right. What could He possibley get out of making me feel bad? I appreciate the fact that you offered a suggestion of what to do should the situation arise again. I've been afraid of voicing this opinion during a scene because I was afraid to make Him uncomfortable, I've always brought it up later in a neutral environment. I will try that if it happens again, but I don't think that it will for a while because . . .

I have decided to stop playing with Him like that for a while. He doesn't want to stop and He promises to try harder, but my self-esteem has dropped and I don't feel as comfortable as I did with Him. Since this is my first D/s relationship, I'm extremely hurt and confused as to how I should feel. I want to reevaluate His actions toward me and my feelings about them. I refuse to lose who I am as a person, even for the extreme pleasure I get from submitting to Him. I don't want to lose Him or what we have outside of this, so I will simply wait until we have enough time for a serious talk again.

Thank you so very much for the help, it's great to know that there are people out there who care about the plights of others.

Have a happy holiday everyone!