I have never successfully started a successful Dom/Sub relationship on purpose. I have successfully started several 'Vanilla' relationships that evolved either slowly or very quickly into Dom/Sub relationships because that's who we were before we got together, whether she completely realized that or not.

I strongly believe that we attract through the vibes we put out and the vision we have for what we want to attract. She will sense my Dominant side and I will 'see' her Submissive side through her unconscious signals during the mating ritual,

What happens after that, what dynamics occur are completely individual and up to the 2 different people involved. I have been happy being one way with one and slightly different with another. If one has different limits and I love her, I can live with that. If another has other likes and dislikes and that parameter still satisfies me in both love and sex, I'm still a happy guy.

Bottom line, I have to love this woman for her to be my Sub but her likes and dislikes in the bedroom better match mine to a much greater extent than they don't.

I wish us all great relationships!

SR