Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52 View Post
While being so forthright has its drawbacks... when you find someone who can live within your boundaries... and mayhaps even has similar boundaries, it makes the connections even stronger.
Oz and I have talked about this before... and a firm solid discussion of those boundaries, especially time commitments as well as each others expectations are so vital. And honestly, not only do they determine a romantic relationship but also a friendship relationship if romance is not to be in the cards. So, I recommend, imho and for what it's worth, that even with the high you are currently on to still bring up the issue of the lack of contact, the reasons, etc. and clearly define with him the expectations...

I only recommend this from experience... I had a Dom that required I be in contact every day. He would be in contact when "he had time" which some times would be 10 or more days and then it would be a simple short "i'm fine" after I asked if he was still breathing or something. That relationship, though D/s in nature was not a constructive one but at times almost dangerous to me due to the lack of contact and the way I processed that lack of contact. OHHHH God could he make the highs wonderful, but the lows were twice as bad, twice as often and he never saw it as a problem, no matter how much I mentioned it. Sooner or later the relationship became something I disliked and my submission matched his attention (meaning it was nil to none) which only made me more unhappy. This was my first D/s experience as well so I was left with the impression that the lack of attention was normal or that I was overly needy, etc. Only years later, looking back can I see how truly inconsiderate that was of him and how harmful it was to me in many ways. And, I learned from it and now clearly state up front what I expect and if the times, etc. won't mesh I state that as well, "hoping" it will work out is not a solution.

So... even though he is back in contact, I encourage you strongly to find out why the absence and to set the expectation now of what you wish. You may be the sub and you certainly don't want to top from the bottom but there has to be a mutual understanding about some things... this being one of them imho. Otherwise, it is possible that this, continued in the long term, will change your level of respect for him and hurt any type of relationship... be it romantic or friendship.

Hugsssssssss Echos!