Guys, in my humble opinion, forget about what is 'supposed to be.' Myself I would never call my girls 'sluts' or 'whores'. That's just me, & them- for some people it may work- the important thing is that it's an agreement between two people, it has to work for BOTH of you.

There are a few people in the BDSM & D/s community who believe one should act in 'certain ways', maybe do a D/s apprenticeship & rise through the ranks to become a certified Dom or sub.

I believe it comes from the 'old guard' - who as I understand it were mostly gay ex-servicemen returning from WW2. They had a love of organisation, & regimentation & made up a series of rules & regulations governing the D/s world.

Things like having to be a sub before attaining the status of a Dom, acting in certain ways, addressing people in the correct manner & so on.

In my opinion you are the one doing this, you are in control. You can do whatever you want with whoever you want- a D/s relationship is unique between two people & should work however those people want it to work.

I liken it to a 'straight' relationship- we're all different, & what's important is how we relate to our partner, not what 'correct etiquette & protocol' demands.

Oh & most of all- this is supposed to be fun for god's sake.

Tojo