Aww what the hell. March into his office hand him a riding crop and throw yourself over his lap. That ought to get the message across! hehhehe* (Boy it would wok for me!)

Seriously everyone has posted really good advice here some based on experience some based on serious thought and good old common sense. In this life everything comes down to the one gift we all hold...choice. What is yours Good_Girl? Up front honesty or the hope of a situation that will turn out to be honest after a little maneuvering? Choice is a difficult thing to be sure but this is a RELATIONSHIP from the root RELATE. If you don't/ can't relate sadly you will be destined to the same story as Polaris. Seeking what you want and asking for what you need is not selfish, quite the opposite my dear it is the single most selfless thing you can do for it puts everyone around you and all that you are close to on the solid ground of knowing where you stand. If you are interested in this guy, life is short, let him know and through getting to know him and relating to each other let him know what your needs are. Nothing complicated, just courageous.

Good luck girl, I hope he ties you up and spanks you for all you are worth!