Leaving marks- please weigh in

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I don't feel insulted, though we've been r/l for over 2 years now and while we've not ventured far into certain paths, I still feel fairly well-informed. So maybe a little stung by 'newbie', though it's quite probably well deserved, and I'm not upset at all.

I didn't mean to imply that scenes never go wrong, I just meant that in my mind, we haven't done anything particularly dangerous. I realize that no matter what, things can go wrong, so I will definately discuss with my husband letting my doctor in on what we do. Also, I realize that by looking for some lasting marks, I'm pushing to an edgier place, but I'd still like to stay far enough away from the edge that we're not being unsafe.

I'm also in no way trying to reject your advice or frustrate you to the point of not bothering anymore, but it seems like I've made it sound like I want him to buy a bullwhip (never handling one before) and use it on me until I pass out, or something dire. Even had he wielded a bullwhip throughout his formative years, I think I'd have to pass on that one. I'm wondering if my comment about how drastically my pain tolerance changes when I hit subspace was alarming? My main interest in this is taking spankings and just intensifying them-- making them longer and harder. Again, my intent in emphasizing this isn't to be disrespectful in any way, I just want to be sure that we are talking about the same activities. I don't want scars or even a bruise to last for weeks; I want to wince when I sit down the next day or so. If I've been miscommunicating that, I apologize. Likewise, if it's still as serious as it sounds, I apologize if it seems like I'm minimizing your advice or rejecting what you're saying. I'm not. It just seems like we might be thinking of different levels of severity, you know? (Am I making sense?) I very much appreciate your time and patience (because I know I can be quite maddening at times).

Also, Kate, I did get to that flogging article, and it was an interesting read, for sure. I was surprised the shoulder blade area was green. Thank you for that resource.

EDIT: Oh, and I'm worried that it may seem like I'm answering back too quickly, without giving it proper thought- my reason for quick responses IS to be respectful, because I appreciate everyone taking the time to respond here, and I'm not just blowing through the things that have been expressed- I am continuing to think on them.