Quote Originally Posted by Alex Bragi
Why do a small, but vocal, minority of bdsmers feel that you're not a 'true bdsmer' if you choose to 'play' on both sides? I hear it often--switches aren't 'real bdsmers' but mere 'players'. The insinuation being that they don't fully comprehend, or understand, the often delicate balance between dominance and submission.
Some people just like to feel like they are a part of something, hell I enjoy the feeling myself. I'm part of a minority of people who enjoy ropes and whips and humiliation and that's great.

Thing is, some people have this need to make whatever group they're a part of exclusive. It happens in every club, sport, organization, and social group. Somebody decides that this part of the group are hardcore and this part of the group are players. Bah. It's all crap and I don't suppose it's suprising that it happens in the BDSM community. After all we're a prideful bunch of people with a pecking order mindset.

I don't switch because there's no appeal in it for me. Same reason I don't have sex with men. I don't want to. That's what this and any other lifestyle, organization, or whatever is for anyway. Our enjoyment. That's it. Anything else is just window dressing.