"I'm a switch"

[Ozme52]

Hi Sweet Alex.

I had to put in my 2 cents worth here. Switches are not that unique. Considering the ratio of doms to subs, it is almost a forgone conclusion that there are more switches than you think.

Ozme, as you stated, the relationship a switch has with other tops or bottoms are assumed based on the other person's orientation. In other words, the switch slides into the position that the other person needs. NOT SO.

The communion of two souls is determined by the feedback they give each other. I don't know of any switch who doesn't say, 'It takes a special person to top me.'

Switches are assertive. Still, if they congregate together, the more dominant ones become evident and top the more submissive ones. Then it becomes a game of tag.

Switching between being a top or a bottom is not an easy thing. It takes a period of time which varies from switch to switch.

Switching with the same person is absolutely fikked, rare, and can happen if both parties work at it.

It is also a fallacy for most kinsters to say I am a switch because it depends on the kinks they fancy. Some of the kinks are considered bottom kinks. So, it is really not fair to oneself to pigeon hole or make that kind of declaration.

In other words, there are black and white versions of doms, and subs, but switches fall into the gray area. And switching is NOT for everyone.

My favorite observations of being a switch is, 'it's like having your cake and eating it too."

Nikita, I'm not sure if you refuted what I said or merely stated what I was sloppily thinking more precisely... Which means I'm confused. But that may be understandable because I don't really understand the switch mentality/psyche.

[Nikita]

Nikita, I'm not sure if you refuted what I said or merely stated what I was sloppily thinking more precisely... Which means I'm confused. But that may be understandable because I don't really understand the switch mentality/psyche.

Sorry Ozzy, I wasn't refuting or re-stating your post, just adding my 2 cents that turned into an essay on the commonalities/differences of switches.

My intention was to point out that a switch/psyche is not black and white but hard to define in terms of D/s. It would be simpler to define them on kink. ROFL

Is switching a kink? I don't know. Does it really matter?

[Tojo]

Well if I'm anything, I'm a Dom- the thought of being someone's slave or whatever has no appeal for me.

However, not so many years ago I did get something out of being tied & teased a little by my wife. Many years ago I had a friend who used to tie me up on regular occasions- her & her girlfriend gave me a fantasy night once or twice which I enjoyed very much.

Sometimes I see pics of a woman in a sexy outfit, with 'that' look in her eye, maybe holding a whip & I think 'hmm'.....

Who knows- maybe we could all be subservient to the right person....

Tojo