Quote Originally Posted by NatalieD
I thought it might be, but... I'm still confused. What's fucked about something that can happen if both parties work at it? Don't most things require work from both parties?

Sorry to be so picky... I'm just not sure what you're saying.
You are not being picky, Natalie. It could have used further clarification, but since that kind of relationship is rare and unusual, I didn't do it.

Here is the phrase that caught your eye:

Switching with the same person is absolutely fikked, rare, and can happen if both parties work at it.

Imagine being submissive to someone who is submissive to you, except not at the same time. This is a BIG deal.

It takes something deeper than BDSM for two people switch like this for each other. The process of turning my domme side loose takes a week to ten days and when I'm there I enjoy it! But, my switch has to be in the same place too, begging to be M's plaything.

For his part, when he's in Dom mode, I barely resist, my knees turn to jelly at with a single word or phrase he knows will trigger me to submission. It is easier, IMO, for us to switch to this mode.

There are times when we are both not in the same place. But, we both agree the effort is worth it.

See what I mean about fikked?

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This is just my opinion.

Thank you sweet Alex!