Submissive/Slave Please introduce yourselves here

[redsonjaseattle]

Hi,
Just joined yesterday...I'm new to this, having started a relationship locally with a Dom in January and looks like I'm going to have to very sadly move on from Him.

Lots of reasons why, but i guess it comes down to this: i don't trust Him anymore, and that's a terrible feeling to discover, since he is my first Master.

I'm still sorting things out so that's why I am here. When i met him, He asked me to "open my heart, mind and soul" to him. After giving me his Collar, He made me learn his Vows and be able to recite them to him and also write him every day. He gave me assignments which i enjoyed doing, and a new name.

Things seemed to be going great until last week. And then he seemed to drop off the face of the earth, after urinating on me for the first time, then flogging me as i had my first sub-space experience.

I've been emailing him every day without a response, communicating my confusion and loneliness...and then i received a response from him today saying "I hope you are feeling better soon. but remember this is for fun."

WTF??? He's shaped me, molded me and now this...i am heartbroken. Am I just over reacting? This was more than just 'fun' for me, even though I'm married I expected...something more personal, i guess.

I don't know if this is 'done' in the D/s scene, but i replied to him "Are you or are you not my Master? You've made me very happy, and I like pleasing you. But i don't like mind games... so tell me now if this has just been a bunch of casual fucks for you wrapped up in D/s rhetoric."

Oh, i am still confused and scared, too. Any advice is greatly appreciated...and what do i do if he releases me? How do i return his Collar?
Am I crazy?

[Aesop]

First of all welcome to the forums Sonja. Something a lot of us learn during the beginning of our BDSM journey is that the BDSM community is just as full of jerks as the vanilla community. Now I don't know all the specifics so I won't label this man as a jerk, but your reply seems warranted. I wouldn't worry about what is 'done' in the d/s scene either. What is done is what you want to do. Each d/s relationship is different and made up of what the people involved want it to be made up of. End of story. There's no right way to do it. After telling you to open yourself up the way he did, he should have taken responsibility for those feelings and it looks like he's back-pedaling now. His collar is a symbol and nothing else. If the feelings behind the symbol have died then you simply give it back to him. I know I make it sound easy and it isn't, but that's the bottom line. You will find friends here if you look for them and you may count me among them. If you would like to chat or just vent in a pm feel free. I may be a stranger, but I've seen your situation many times. Good luck to you.

[Tojo]

redsonjaseattle, you don't sound crazy to me- crazy would more like if you were to put up with being treated in a way that was unacceptable to you.

In my opinion, as well as the majority it seems- do as Aesop says, & forget about what's 'done' in the D/s world.

A D/s relationship is like any other, it's between 2 people & to hell with what others think. Seems to me many of the people who don't care about what they're doing are the ones who spout 'rules' & what you should or shouldn't do.

Do what is right. If someone betrays your trust & won't listen to you, do what it takes.

As far as him 'releasing you', you have the right to do as you please, the same as anyone. If not, laws are being broken.

You have to decide for yourself what you want without compromise. If you can't sort it out with him you know better than anyone what you have to do.

As for what you said- "so tell me now if this has just been a bunch of casual fucks for you wrapped up in D/s rhetoric."

Well put, I couldn't have said it better myself! Sounds like you've got it pretty well figured.

Tojo

[stripedangel]

Hello to all!

i've been in the chats, and met a few of you. So, here's my formal intro...

Mr.FixIt and i have been married for 11 years, and have been in the lifestyle for one. We had toyed with the kinks, but i was the one in charge, for the most part, in our marriage.

A year ago, i asked Him if he would be my Dom....so here we are.

Nice to meet y'all!

Sooo here we are!

[butterflySlave4u]

welcome stripedangel!

[lilchia3]

I have been around here a bit just checking things out and trying to learn a little bit. I am a 23 year old woman, who has a tendancy to be on the shy side and have never had a master. I love to learn, read- suggestions welcome, and..uhh..am a hands-on learner.

About a year ago I decided to go into massage therapy school, which taught (and still is teaching) me about the importantce of positive touch. This lead me to thinking about the kind of touch I want and think I need. So this leads me to here and now. So, if you see me around say hi because chances are that I will be the wall flower. >embarrassed face<

[sub84]

I have been around here a bit just checking things out and trying to learn a little bit. I am a 23 year old woman, who has a tendancy to be on the shy side and have never had a master. I love to learn, read- suggestions welcome, and..uhh..am a hands-on learner.

About a year ago I decided to go into massage therapy school, which taught (and still is teaching) me about the importantce of positive touch. This lead me to thinking about the kind of touch I want and think I need. So this leads me to here and now. So, if you see me around say hi because chances are that I will be the wall flower. >embarrassed face<

im in the same boat withyou lilchia im 23 never had a dom or a r/l experience at all. ive found the forums to be very informative. welcome hope you find what you are looking for. maybe you can post some ideas on massage i personally love massage and am always looking for ways to do it better