Quote Originally Posted by slave_juice View Post
i like how your aftercare is so nurturing and you seem to dedicate alot of time and thought to it...

it seems like your sub is saying that she needs some quiet time after a scene though, for some subs that is necessary before (or as part of) after care...

for me, after a scene, when im in subspace... my brain is on "standby" im non functional and unreceptive to any stimuli... i very much need that time to process and recover from the scene...

when my dom and i first played together, we were both suprised that i needed that... now, after a scene, he has me comfortable under a blanket, in total silence... eventually he starts bringing me out of it and then proceeds to provide aftercare... it really works for me, i wonder how ur sub would feel about it...
I guess I should clarify somewhat - I cut some corners in my original post since this is a discussion of after-care.

How after-care proceeds depends on the scene with us - if she's very deeply into subspace, and not processing, I like to make sure she is indeed fine before I give her the quiet time she needs. When she's deeply into subspace she will keep on going to the point of physical injury if allowed to - so her "I'm fine, I just need some quiet." is usually just part of her standard "I'm fine response." regardless of whether she is or not. In those cases I take a hands on approach until I'm sure she is indeed fine. Once I'm sure she is, she gets her preferred quiet time method (she rests easier either caged or suspended, depending on how she's feeling). The heat is kept up in the dungeon so she doesn't catch chill - she prefers not to be covered when having quiet time.

If the scene has been less intense, or she's not so deep into subspace she's unable to process, then I'll generally take her down from the suspension rig and re-suspend her in another pose which puts less strain on her if she wants quiet time - and give her a little water as I reposition her.

I use a baby monitor and a webcam to monitor her when she's having quiet time - so I can keep an eye on her and make sure she's ok - when she gets a little restless I know she's ready to rejoin me - and the after-care proceeds.

So yes - she gets the quiet time she needs - but I make sure she's fine before I leave her.