What do YOU get out of D/s?

[gemmy]

im probably not going to be too popular here after this, but why is it that many people seem to have the need to idealise and romanticise D/s relationships?
yes trust respect honour pride etc is needed but its needed in vanilla relationships just as much.

as to the op's question my answer would simply be, it makes me happy and i hope yours does the same!

lol icey, i don't think it's a popularity contest *winks*

maybe for you, it is the norm and expected so no big deal, i don't know

for some of us who largely spent their lives going from one bad vanilla relationship to the next, not understanding why until we discovered and accepted a new lifestyle, it is romantic and ideal *smiles*

yes, one would hope for all those things (trust, respect, honour, pride) in a vanilla relationship but honestly how many achieve it?

the level of communication and honesty that is put into a D/s relationship i think (my own opinion of course), goes beyond what we feel safe enough to let go otherwise

take from that what you will, but for me, there is nothing blazea about it and taking happiness in being able to share that with others is even better

gem,
xo