You don't have to choose, bdsm_lover.

I started out thinking I was a sub, for many years. I had a few interesting liasons with women over the years before gradually losing interest in it.

I was chatting with someone on another forum (who's now a member here) & got to playing around with her- to cut a long story short, I found my place.

While I have no desire to submit to anyone now, I still have fantasies of being arrested by Liz Hurley